Hey Bearded Guy!

by - July 11, 2018

Last March 3rd, 2018 – a Saturday – I went out to see a friend to catch up and we ended up at XO 46 Heritage Bistro. This is in S Maison at the Conrad Hotel.



We were having lunch and catching up when I noticed that a guy at the table behind ours was handsome. I told my friend and she turned around to check if he was. She agreed. We continued to catch up and I noticed that the good-looking guy was looking in our direction. He was a Caucasian guy with a mustache and beard, wearing a t-shirt and shorts and he was with a Filipino male friend who was wearing something fatigue-ish from what I could remember.

I had to ask my friend if I was imagining things but when she turned around again to check, she confirmed that he was looking. I have no idea if he was looking because we looked first but he kept looking at us to the point that my friend and I agreed to stick around after we paid our bill just to see if he would do something other than look.

Unfortunately, the guy and his friend finished his meal and left – passing by our table – without saying a word. Disappointing. I was hoping he would at least smile or say Hi. I couldn’t stop thinking about the guy for a while. I mean, can you blame me? I haven’t been on a date in years. I haven’t been in a relationship for probably a decade. It was nice to have an attractive guy see me. To have a guy I find attractive look at me. I’ve been living in the province seeing the same people for so long that the guy from lunch was probably the first guy who has given me kilig feelings in the last five years. 

I decided to tweet about the guy and see if I could find him. Thankfully, with the support of my friends there were enough retweets to spread it around as much as I could.  Sadly, despite that I never did find the guy. Or he could have found the tweets and decided that he wasn’t interested enough to make the effort to get in touch. It was amusing that months later I still get messages and tweets from people asking if I eventually found him. It’s sad that I had to reply in the negative.


To be honest I’ve had some negative reactions to my tweet to find the guy. Some had called me names I’d rather not repeat here. I’m grateful that there were people online who came to my rescue. It made me feel better after the hurtful words directed against me.

Still, negative reactions aside, I have no regrets. I think every time I put myself out there – or any time any of us puts ourselves out there for that matter – I leave myself vulnerable to anything. I could get a positive response or a negative one. I could get no response at all. The important thing is that I reached out and tried. If it works, it works. If it doesn’t, there’s nothing I can do other than to move on. As long as I did this without harming or hurting anyone else or compromising what I believe in or who I am, I think there’s no harm in trying. I did something similar ten years ago when I saw this cute guy at a forum I attended, and he ended up replying to what I had posted about him on my blog. We never met up but the nice reply that I got still brings a smile to me to this day. 

Life is too short for us to not put ourselves out there and go after what we want. As long as we’re not doing anything wrong or harming anyone else, why not take the risk and do something right?

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