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Wednesday, October 16, 2019

The Civil Wedding Ceremony

My youngest sister recently got married via a civil wedding ceremony. She’s getting married in a church ceremony in December, but she was advised that it would be good for her to get the legal ceremony out of the way before the church ceremony so she and her now-husband went in front of a judge here in our municipality and said their I Dos.

civil wedding

I didn’t expect the ceremony to affect me the way that it did when my other sisters got married in church. I thought that with it being a simple ceremony before a judge that it wouldn’t be as moving as a church one. I was wrong. I felt this urge to tear up during the ceremony. I had to control myself since there no one else seemed to be on the verge of tears as I was.

It was nice that the judge who officiated the ceremony was a nice guy. He had a sense of humor that made the ceremony less stuffy and more fun. He even encouraged photos to commemorate the whole thing, with him included of course!

I loved that being a small ceremony, everything was more intimate during the civil wedding. It was good to share something special with a small and select group of people. 

It was so good to see my sister smiling and laughing during the ceremony. Before the relationship with her husband, her previous one ended badly, and it hurt her so much that I thought it would be hard for her to recover. Thankfully, she met her husband and the rest is history. 

The newlyweds will still be having their church wedding in December. As nice as that one will be with the fancy outfits, the big reception and all the fancy decorations and whatnot, I think that I will still like this civil ceremony more. It had the couple at their most unguarded, at their most natural. The same goes for friends and family. 

If I ever get to the point of getting married myself, I’d probably prefer a small and intimate wedding just because this one felt so much better to me than the bigger weddings that I’ve been to with all the fanfare. It was just my sister and her husband and the immediate members of their family, along with a couple of close friends and relatives.

Personally, I don’t understand all the things that go with weddings these days. Maybe it comes with age, but I feel that the simpler they are, the better. I think it’s much more practical to spend on the couple’s life together than to spend all that money on just that one day. I’ve heard of people who have had to borrow money just to afford their weddings and I just don’t think that is the right way to go.

There’s something to be said about the small and intimate ceremony. Even if it’s not as small as a civil ceremony with a few family and friends, having an intimate church ceremony for me feels better for me now that I have seen how it can be like. From what I’ve read of some other weddings done in other countries, some couples opt for the small and intimate ceremonies than just choose to have a “wedding dinner” for the bigger group of people after. If I were to get married, I’d probably want to do that. 

I still can’t believe that my youngest sister, our little baby, is now a wife. It feels just like yesterday that I would carry her in my arms and sing her to sleep. Next thing you know she’ll be the one doing the same thing to her own baby. I know she’s got other babies she’s focusing on right now like her work, blog, and business, but you never know right?


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